tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25089563.post2081608248553515379..comments2023-09-04T15:46:05.464+03:00Comments on Dust and Dreams: I can't get no sex educationWild at Hearthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14369868063662795614noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25089563.post-14524112249918938472010-09-06T11:55:22.429+02:002010-09-06T11:55:22.429+02:00True Story !
a woman and her husband came from upp...True Story !<br />a woman and her husband came from upper egypt to the Gynecology clinic cuz the woman was complaining of dysuria and infertility ! after examination doctors found out that the woman has a blind vaginal pouch (congenital anomaly) and all this time the intercourse was through the urethra !! and both of them have no idea !! her urethra was extensively damaged !!<br />can you imagine this??Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25089563.post-21841647581967275922007-11-06T00:46:00.000+02:002007-11-06T00:46:00.000+02:00begad el topic bta3k i like it so much l2n really ...begad el topic bta3k i like it so much l2n really feih banat begad mt3rfsh 7aga lesa 3n el gawaz wel 3elaqa el zawgya and i have heard a lot about failure in marriage coz of this issue, w27na mash2allah most of our mtohers bytksfo ytklmo fel mwdo3 dh m3 2wladhom wll2sf bytaro y3rfo m3lomat 3'lt mn 7agat tanya whatever the way is, but also there is some mothers who are open minded and they talk with their kids a in scientific way telling them everything they need and i know someone her mother is such great mother. so i think mesh 3'alat 2no ydares fel madares 3shan weladna ely gayeen b3d keda bs btare2a 3emlya wkwaisa bs fe nfs el w2t yfselo been el banat w el welad fel 7essas dih 3shan mafesh bent ttksf wyb2a bys2alo bra7ethom. begad i like your blog a lot and hope good luck for u and more useful postscinderellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01491844153191323913noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25089563.post-21376950739923227842007-08-12T01:50:00.000+03:002007-08-12T01:50:00.000+03:00as long as there are people like 3esam and like u ...as long as there are people like 3esam and like u noha struggling we wont have actual solution but merely quarrels about who said wat?<BR/>we"females/future mothers" should start this simple infos with our children if they are not getting it at school and believe me 3esam children will be disgusted and refuse the sex education they will be getting if they got any thats because they refuse this kind of information as it is attached for us to being forbidden and smth "bad". i dont know how bad as long as it is the cause of ur and my being. there has to be sex education if not for children then for parents who want to enlighten their children's minds because most parents dont know wat to say to their child that is when this kid goes seeking any knowlege from outside his family education and he sont mind if it is wrong or right and maybe one day he may try it however he could..Caring Friendhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13891844349449952237noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25089563.post-64961870693365520142007-07-08T11:57:00.000+03:002007-07-08T11:57:00.000+03:00In the previous comment the family i mentinoned ar...In the previous comment the family i mentinoned aren't mine, but they treat me like one of them.<BR/>My family, specially my mother put alot of effort since i was younger in making me comfortable enough to talk about sexuality issues and ask. But even with that society around u has a way of imposing their awkwardness and embarrassment in dealing with such matters<BR/>And u know it isn't just knowing about sex, but every time i sit with my female friends i realise we need someone we could seek for adice about our body, hygiene issues and so on<BR/><BR/>thanx for replying<BR/>i am glad i've stumbled upon ur blogmonasoshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12342888726720407970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25089563.post-83078174106865472902007-07-07T09:35:00.000+03:002007-07-07T09:35:00.000+03:00Hi dear - it's Kimberly again. Interesting post -...Hi dear - it's Kimberly again. Interesting post - it brought up a lot of thoughts for me. First of all, it made me giggle because considering the huge population growth in Egypt I don't think it's a problem if neither the man or the woman know what's going on! :) People figure those things out just fine on their own. <BR/> In my opionion the problem has nothing to do with sex education. Teachers and parents can talk about sex for hours, but the magic of sex is that until you are faced with it, one on one, it will remain a mystery.<BR/> I am more concerned about attitudes about sex in the Middle East than about education. FEMALE CIRCUMCISION (also known as GENITAL MUTILATION) HAS GOT TO BE STOPPED! All the sex education in the world will not make a difference if the woman is unable to feel the real pleasure of sex with her husband. She will be left feeling like a failure, and will not be interested in pleasing her husband. I just can't understand it all and it breaks my heart. Not only for the women, but for the men as well.<BR/> As an American we did have SOME sex education in school - but as I said, it does nothing to prepare someone for the real thing. When I was younger I read every book I could get my hands on and I'd say I know almost everything there IS to know about sex...yet still, it makes no difference. It took TEN YEARS for sex with my husband to be perfect and mutually fulfilling. What a wonderful Egyptian man I have married! A true angel. But education has nothing to do with satisfasction or happiness. It is about respect and love and being natural. I actually think it might be BETTER to know nothing about sex, as perhaps it is more natural then - and no one is looking for something that isn't there.<BR/> I found your post interesting because I always felt that Egyptian women knew MORE about sex than Western woman! Not the scientific details of how it happens and things like that - but of the naturalness of it all. If you 'save' yourself until marriage, are you not aware of what exactly it is that you are saving yourself for? I would think if you spend so much effort 'saving' yourself, that you would find the whole thing more sacred and special.<BR/> Here, I would guess many people don't see what the big deal is, and don't enjoy it for the beauty that it naturally has. Even if an Egyptian woman doesn't know exactly what to do...at least she knows it SHOULD be very special.<BR/> I want to strongly add that KNOWLEDGE about sex does NOT make a person careless and sexually out of control. As I said, I know much about sex, but I have never been sexually active outside marriage. It is about culture, and values and morals. I would say half the girls here who are having sex outside of marriage know almost nothing about it!<BR/> I am very open about sex and sex education - and yet I am truly faithful to my husband and always will be. <BR/> There are things in life that no one can truly prepare you for, and sex is one of them...the good news is that most people have many years to figure it out! What is the hurry really? - everyone will understand it soon enough...and then they will be tired of it, of course!!!!! :) lol<BR/> I hope someday the young girls of Egypt are not mutilated... before sex education, that should be the biggest priority. STOP FEMALE GENITAL MUTILATION!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!<BR/>...I think it's a bit funny that people circumcise the girls to prevent them from enjoying sex TOO much, or from becoming immoral people. Most of the women I know (all of whom are NOT circumcised) have much less interest in sex than men do...and often wish their husbands would just leave them alone. :)<BR/><BR/>It's always a pleasure to read your posts...thanks for being so unique and always true to yourself. You are so special! The man who marries you will suffer much, but will absolutely adore you and your brilliant (if sometimes difficult) mind! <BR/>Much love, KimberlyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25089563.post-41084796386118437012007-07-05T22:29:00.000+03:002007-07-05T22:29:00.000+03:00Well Ma3t, consider yourself lucky!I think there's...Well Ma3t, consider yourself lucky!<BR/>I think there's no hope in sex education at school, or in any case you and I cannot really change it...what we can change though is for us to educate ourselves and urge everyone to do the same because vague information on such an issue are of no help. And educate our children when we beget them!<BR/>Thanks for dropping by.Wild at Hearthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14369868063662795614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25089563.post-15184197927424073682007-07-05T11:21:00.000+03:002007-07-05T11:21:00.000+03:00First let me tell u how glad i am that u talked a ...First let me tell u how glad i am that u talked a bout sexual education in Egypt, which is non existent<BR/><BR/>I think that specially among girls it is actually more restricted in the middle class, the sexual ignorance that is. Because i have a family which i am very close to , and they consider me one of them, and they are the typical sha3by egyptain family, and it's just so different being among them, because they have alot of women and girls who are very comfortable in talking about sexuality and sex, and the older women are aware of very change that occur to the girls body, and they are giving them feedback about it. The whole atmosphere makwes it rather easy for the girls to ask freely about sex and be prepared for their wedding<BR/><BR/>I remember in school when they gave us the reproductive system lessons, yes i believe that understanding the anatomical part is important , but they don't give u any info that make the process seem real, like u'll be one day participating in it. and even while describing the anatomy, the teachers are so awkward that inevitably they make u feel very awkward and embarrassedmonasoshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12342888726720407970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25089563.post-28368871685198366522007-07-05T01:08:00.000+03:002007-07-05T01:08:00.000+03:00You aren't convinced with the importance of sexual...You aren't convinced with the importance of sexual education in the first place, are you.<BR/>You have no right to judge me as indecent...especially that I WAS decent to you.Wild at Hearthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14369868063662795614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25089563.post-88886230263632453332007-07-05T00:50:00.000+03:002007-07-05T00:50:00.000+03:00yes but not every body should know what the studen...yes but not every body should know what the students of the faculty of medicine learn. <BR/>I'm sorry but till now there is no one convincing here, not even the writer, and i should be more sorry to read such indecency from Marwan, and the repliers as well.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25089563.post-16742044854548131022007-07-04T08:36:00.000+03:002007-07-04T08:36:00.000+03:00i think i said punch not bunch because that's what...i think i said punch not bunch because that's what u really deserveAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25089563.post-54220089620495183452007-07-03T14:25:00.000+03:002007-07-03T14:25:00.000+03:00i don't know what the hell is ur problem...still u...i don't know what the hell is ur problem...still ur too stupit to understand....the cds and pictures are for sick ppl like you who can't give themselves a chance to think ....tell me how many men check immoral sites all over the internet ... is this ur idea about education? ...a punch of sex-obsessed animals surfing the net , watching cds....have u studied biology? i don't think it included cds..did it? this is science not a synical party for a pscychopath or a sex obsessed person who minimizes everything in life to sex....people studying medicine study it..." a professor lectures on sex...with a number of cds to educate his students" is that how they study it?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25089563.post-33897654677397679312007-07-03T12:03:00.000+03:002007-07-03T12:03:00.000+03:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25089563.post-71597740259257278612007-07-03T02:55:00.000+03:002007-07-03T02:55:00.000+03:00This comment has been removed by the author.Wild at Hearthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14369868063662795614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25089563.post-64834796302619958722007-07-02T22:44:00.000+03:002007-07-02T22:44:00.000+03:00i don't think there is anything more disgusting th...i don't think there is anything more disgusting than your shallow understanding ....u know what we're believers and we would never do anything against Religion ...& i don't think girls are the ones who are desperately sex addicts..it's sick men who can't control themselves ...what encounters every single girl everyday is not something that she enjoys...i'm so disgusted from ur words..i don't get it..."the smiling happy girl who like to be touched by pimps & psychos ...ur so provoking "...besides i got something for u...scientifically attraction begins in males first from childhood ..but in females it comes with puberty...& girls don't know about sex as ur imagination fools u....she's not telling u to watch borno or sex movies...that's stupid ....but we need to know how this takes place scientifically because if they don't " both males & females" , they might risk their own health ...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25089563.post-7693832061730540872007-07-02T19:28:00.000+03:002007-07-02T19:28:00.000+03:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25089563.post-57920422999396853672007-07-01T05:32:00.000+03:002007-07-01T05:32:00.000+03:00Dear Anonymous,first sure there is a percentage (a...Dear Anonymous,<BR/>first sure there is a percentage (a large one?) of Egyptian youth who don't have enough knowledge to face life. Who just go to college to pass, socialise, and meet girls/gals but I don't think it's hopeless. I think the remaining masses are well-learned and can actually make a change.<BR/>second, you can give me an example in which knowledge is harmful because I really can't think of any. Even then I don't even know if this example will put you and I on common grounds because you can look at an issue from a perspective that is totally different from mine. Well, what I'm calling for is sex education BEARING IN MIND the restraints on sexual activity that God has put. We should tell people what sex is AND tell them it's forbidden before marriage for such and such a reason...That case, you might have much less monkeys playing with their sexual organs...I'm saying less because many young people already do!<BR/>thirdly, listen to what happened to me when I was young, a 10 year-old girl. An older man picked me from the street and convinced me that he wanted to surprise his cousins...and that I should help him by knocking at their door.So he took me to a building and molested me.I knew something was wrong and I left him but if I had understood his intentions at the very beginning, who knows, maybe such an awful incident wouldn't have happened to me. If my mother had told me "if any stranger tries to talk to you, don't talk to him, don't go anywhere with him, just run away, because chances are he would want to touch you, and he shouldn't", if my mother had told me this basic step in sex education, I wouldn't have been abused. Simply.<BR/>fourthly,yeah they do..and so they should know what sex is and that it's Haram so they wouldn't make out in the first place.<BR/>fifthly, dear anonymous, that's precisely the wrong supposition that we all have in mind ! That sure someone will talk to her before she gets married...but there you go...you've got a live example of a girl whom no one talked to(if we assume I hadn't talked to her) -even 6 days before the wedding.I'm not enough and I told her so. We assume someone had taught the newly weds but simply and sorrowfully that doesn't always happen, which, I believe, is a disaster.<BR/>Finally, I'm right there with you...sex education we should get, but the regulations should be, the way I see it, not on the information given, but on WHEN and HOW to have sex. That's all.<BR/>You never caused any inconvenience and feel free to discuss any topic on this blog because people who disagree respectfully are very rare these days! <BR/>Thanks and stay good.Wild at Hearthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14369868063662795614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25089563.post-37336342974273589032007-06-30T23:59:00.000+03:002007-06-30T23:59:00.000+03:00dear Wilde at heart, i am an awfully pure egyptian...dear Wilde at heart, i am an awfully pure egyptian, and in my word " ignorant egyptians" i didnt mean to insult them, but i also didnt mean the 5 or 10 percent of the university youth that are promising, i just meant the majority, tell me about the university youth who succeed with a total grade " pass " every year, tell me how many are the young men and girls in the university who come for any purpose except education.<BR/>secondly, knowledge as power was invented by the french philosopher in a certain context, besides there is knowledge which is harmful tab3an but in a very limited sense and i think that sex education is not that essential, i dont demean it, but i say that if it is rendered to the ignorant youth , the majority, will produce to us nothing more than monkeys playing with their sexual organs. <BR/>Thirdly, i dont think there is a little girl or a boy in the world who doesnt know that people must not touch his or her pivate parts. <BR/>fourth, i dont think that university students dont know that kisses and hugs may lead to sex!!!<BR/> fifthly, i dont think that there are girls who know nothing about sexual untercourses, at least she knows it is there and happens, but she might not know, as you said in the text, that she doesnt know the mechanical process of intercourse. i think it is not bad, i'm sure she would find a mother or a sister or a colleague like u to tell her about the issue before she marries.<BR/>Finally i dont mind sex education but i have regulations on the matter and such came from my awareness of my society; we r not westerners, we live hear, we r muslims. i am not a fundamentalist or conservative to abandon such knowledge nor i'm a fool to call for anything from one perspective. but i wish we could study every thing carefully and ask specialists before coming to put forth issues without realizing the pros and cons in relation to time and place. i'm sorry for inconvinience, but i say that to u because one day u may be one of the people of letters whose words may change alot. keep on ur way, god help u .Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25089563.post-47269983210872759332007-06-30T19:58:00.000+03:002007-06-30T19:58:00.000+03:001st Anonymous:I read your blog and I just want to ...1st Anonymous:<BR/>I read your blog and I just want to say :THANK YOU.<BR/><BR/>Alif:<BR/>!!!!!<BR/>It's a disaster elzaher. I told my mum and a neighbour about this and they just repeated the "he knows" statement. I'll tell them about this story so they can know that he doesn't necessarily know!<BR/><BR/>2nd Anonymous:<BR/>Wait a second...you brought up lots of issues here that need to be discussed.<BR/>"it's not promising for ignorant youth like the Egyptians who know hardly a thing about life to be well educated in sex"<BR/>I disagree from head to foot. Are you Egyptian? Are you living among Egyptian youth? I am. Both. And I can tell you a lot of Egyptian youth are much more cultured than you think...than even what I imagined. I won't forget when I asked my students to make a presentation on Communism and when we had a tour in the Egyptian Museum. Those kids are brilliant, I tell you. And, if you're talking about "life", they are surviving as well...they're certainly NOT ignorant. But if you're talking about sexual ignorance...I'm right there with you and this is what I'm totally against.<BR/><BR/>"what I want to ask about is how much beneficial it is to be well educated in sex as long as men and women are not in their way to marry"<BR/>Dear anonymous, knowledge is NEVER a dirty word. NEVER. Give me one example of knowledge that might harm me or make me a worse person. No need to tell you that knowledge is power. When you educate a young child and tell him no one should touch their private parts...you can save him from being abused. When you tell a teenager that there are lines she shouldn't cross when dealing with her male colleagues,that touching and kissing may lead to sex...that sex at that point is just about the worst thing she could do, and that not only does she cause God's rage, but also spends her life in shame, disgrace, and would most probably end in suicide or murder. Now how is she going to educate her when she doesn't even know what sexual intercourse is? How is the girl going to avoid something she doesn't even know? Got me?<BR/>Okay you cannot teach sex in just one day...all through our childhood and teenage years,we accumulate knowledge about sex that may or may not be true. Why don't we replace this confusion with correct info on the topic since our kids are little children and increase the 'doses' as it grows, so that when the child reaches the age of marriage, he would know everything he needs to have a safe, successfull sexual intercourse.<BR/>OF COURSE this is not a call for practicing sexual intercourse among the unmarried and I hope I made it clear in the teenage girl example above.<BR/>Thanks and I hope you got my point, and are hopefully convinced.Wild at Hearthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14369868063662795614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25089563.post-62195771275320157302007-06-30T01:40:00.000+03:002007-06-30T01:40:00.000+03:00i dont think its a tragic problem except for few p...i dont think its a tragic problem except for few people such as the writer masalan. but i wonder our parents and grandparents who knew nothing about sex education, they were really successful. but what i wish to add is that it's not promising for ignorant youth like the egyptians who know hardly a thing about life to be well educated in sex. its funny to remember the third prep lesson of science about sex education. it was very funny the way the boys reacted. i know every body remembers this situation. finally what i want to ask about is how much beneficial it is to be well educated in sex as long as young men and women are not in their way to marry. i myself dont have enough sex education, but it means nothing to me now. But it will be very important when i come to marry, coz knowledge without practice is pressing unless it is a call for practicing sex intercourse among the unmarried. i need the writer of this essay to anwer my last remark.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25089563.post-88630220889786975572007-06-29T21:49:00.000+03:002007-06-29T21:49:00.000+03:00and boys tooand <A HREF="http://egyptoz.blogspot.com/2007/06/blog-post_19.html" REL="nofollow">boys too</A>ألِفhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12671465044126757555noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25089563.post-50575276264085101202007-06-28T10:14:00.000+03:002007-06-28T10:14:00.000+03:00check this site ya bentyhttp://blogthaqafy.wordpre...check this site ya benty<BR/>http://blogthaqafy.wordpress.comAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com